Why Are You So Crabby?

Jun 1st, 2012 | By | Category: Geri Roskopf's Blog

My husband asked me why I was so crabby. His question kind of stopped me in my tracks. I think that when we are unhappy, we have difficulty determining the source. It’s easy to assume someone else is the source of our angst, but maybe my problem is closer to home. They say the truth will set you free but I think that first, it will really irritate you. My husband’s comment had me muttering to myself, “Crabby, huh? Whatever.”

I guess, though, my husband’s statement really was an eye opener for me. After his comment, I realized a negative emotional wake is expensive. Family, friends, employees and customers pay the price.

His comment also brought back a Native American saying I once read:

“Where in your life did you become uncomfortable with the sweet territory of silence?”

I believe there are insights and emotions that can find you in no other way than through silence. If you’re like me, it’s hard to find time to just sit in silence, take some deep breaths and try to empty your mind of everything. My brain starts to wander, as I feel I should be “doing something” ¬— answering emails, returning phone calls, paying bills, etc.

Our lives change so quickly — an employee leaves … the competition is fierce … the economy goes upside down … new technology makes what you have obsolete … a family member passes away … someone always needing help with something. After my quiet reflection, I guess I just found myself going upside down with what was going on around me.

I also realized that my husband’s observation and comment was actually a gift. I needed to confront and search why I was so crabby, find the problem and solve it. When I really concentrate on being still, underlying truths surface and I can point myself in the right direction and form a plan with some end-line goals.

I started the day with a quiet prayer and a good cup of coffee. I have done a few mental adjustments, stretched my arms to the ceiling, took a few deep breaths and put a smile on my face. Yep, attitude is everything.